FAMILY CONSTELLATION WORKSHOP

“It is important to realise that, even though Hellingers work owes much to other forms of therapy, Family Constellation is much more than the sum of its parts. It is an organic system in itself and one of the deepest and most `powerful therapies ever devised. In a single session....... it reveals deep truths about our families and ourselves that can heal, transform, liberate and radically change our lives for the better. “
Svagito Liebermeister, author of The Roots of Love

In his work with thousands of family systems, Bert Hellinger has found what he describes as a natural order of love which is deeply engraved in the family group memory. There is a conscience or family soul that, in an invisible and unconscious way for its members, is passed from generation to generation and which conditions the behaviour and destiny of each of the individuals of that family. What one generation leaves unresolved is somehow taken on by members of subsequent generations in an innocent and unconscious attempt to re-establish balance. This can often lead us to assume behaviours and difficulties which do not belong to us and in fact create more disorder instead of less.

In intimate relationships these disorders can mean we remain somehow attached to our family history and are not fully available for relating with our partner.

In family constellations the method of bringing hidden family dynamics to light is to have a person (client) from the group create the constellation of his or her family. Other people from the group are invited to represent members of the family and are positioned in the room according to the clients intuition in that moment. In this way a living model of the family is created. It is found that the feelings and thoughts of the representatives are very similar to those of the actual family members.

The uniqueness of this work is not only to uncover a destructive family dynamic. Using the responses of the representatives in their positions, a new image of the family is slowly uncovered that allows a more natural and healing balance to develop within the system.

Many problems have systemic causes and cannot be understood only in an individual context. Specific areas that are commonly affected by family dynamics are for example personal relationships, illnesses, addictions, difficulties in the workplace and parenting.

“When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind him while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him. Only when connection to the family is acknowledged ... can the individual feel unburdened and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him back.”
Bert Hellinger

In Connecting by Design we offer two possibilities to do Family Constellation work

• as part of the activities of the Connecting by Design weekends

• as dedicated Family Constellation one day or weekend workshops